I was going home with a friend and his sister one day. Somehow or the other, we began talking about the people who we liked at school. And, when I told her I had a two-year crush on this guy from soccer, she turned her nose away in disgust and rolled her eyes. “Huh. Soccer people.”
I could not help laughing.
Often we are judged by how we look, how we act, and what activities we undertake. That is just one half of this mixture. The other half revolves around the receiving end of the information of a person.
Say, for example, that I told you that there is a girl who is extremely pretty, with the most silky hair and is always adored by every single guy in school as the epitome of the social ladder. At this point, I’m pretty sure an image of a person has already formed in your mind. Now, it depends on how you interpret this image.
If you are someone who has had a bad experience with someone similar, it is very likely that you would be put off by this image and have closed this window.
However, if you are someone who is a close friend with someone like that, you might be more likely to accept her, and talk to her.
It is the same as my friend’s sister. I was pretty sure she had experiences where she knew of homophobic soccer boys. (Thankfully, I have found some really nice soccer people too. But that’s another story for another day.)
Sometimes, we should take a step back and look at these judgements that we have etched in our heads. A poor person who has never done you any wrong could be puzzled at your reactions to his actions because you have always thought of him/her to be a someone unworthy of your attention.
Of course, if this person has irritated and annoyed you countless times with his empty and thoughtless mind, then continue with the lack of attention.
All I’m saying is that you should really think back at the different judgements you have on someone, and perhaps change them. Maybe that’ll make you a better person. ;)
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